You know how you might sometimes relive conversations years
after they’ve finished (I realize not all people do this, but imagine, if you
will)? You think I wish I said this differently or I should have
listened better. One such conversation I relive nearly 15 years after the
fact centered around racism. Specifically, it was an argument I had with my
closest friend at the time as to whether it still existed. I insisted that we
were way past racism, that society knows better now, that the fact that
there were affluent Blacks and poor Whites meant that systemic racism died
years ago. My friend, who is mixed-race, of course countered that racism was
not dead. How did the argument end? We were at an impasse and never discussed
it again.
I cringe every time I think back to that conversation. I was
ignorant. I had never seen racism manifest in front of me. If it had, I didn’t
notice because it was never directed at me. As far as I knew, racism was something
from our history books. It was conquered with the Civil Rights Movement and Dr.
King.
I now know better. I’ve learned since leaving the privileged
little bubble I’d grown up in that the world is so much bigger than what I had
seen or experienced. I know how privileged I am just by being white. I try not
to beat myself up too much for being an ignorant kid, but the thing is, my
friend was trying to open my eyes to the truth—to her truth—and I refused to
see it because it made me uncomfortable. I wish I had listened—really
listened back then.
I never have to worry about someone shooting me for jogging
or walking around my neighborhood. No one has ever followed me around in a
store. I always believed the police are here to protect me and never witnessed
anything to make me question that fact. I’ve never been the subject of racial
profiling. But, just because it is not my reality doesn’t mean it doesn’t
exist.
There is no denying that racism still exists in this
country. One might think that he’s not harming anyone by denying its existence,
but that’s how white supremacists win. That’s how countless lives are ripped
away without any real repercussions. When we stay silent about injustices, we permit
them to continue. If one truly believes all lives matter, he’d stand for
justice—for all.
We are all human—image bearers of God. Skin color,
hair type, height, weight, culture, sex, political party, geographical location,
health, religion, brain chemistry—these do not change this fact. Humanity has
been stripped away from various peoples throughout the ages. In our sin, and to
our shame, we’ve marginalized “others” based off looks, beliefs, upbringing—you
name it. The “us” v. “them” mentality—the division—does more harm than good (if
any good at all). Every human, whether we disagree with them or just don’t like
how they look, deserves dignity and respect. Every. Single. Life. Matters.
So, if I were to go back and change that conversation I had
years ago, I’d shut up and listen to my friend. I would tell her that her
points were valid and admit that I’m no authority on racism. I’d say that I
have no clue of the struggle many people face each day. I’d say “sorry,” and
maybe I would have learned all this sooner.